3) Own your story first, teach later.
A post that comes from a place of first person storytelling is much more likely to resonate with your audience, than a vanilla statement of what you learned.
For example, let’s go back to my story about heartbreak. I learned a lot about my connection with the Sacred Masculine.
But what if I instead of sharing that personal story (see number 2) — I simply wrote my lessons, with no backstory of where they came from.
“Girls, it’s so important to honour your inner masculine! Go within and feel into how you are honouring your inner masculine. Do you let him out, or no?
If you don’t honour your inner masculine, you may magnetize experiences with men that hurt or make you feel like you can’t trust them. ”
Is that message true? Yes… but it doesn’t hit me. I don’t feel from it. If the goal is to really resonate with your tribe, and to touch people and affect change, your personal stories are probably the way to go.
Now, to be real, I totally post quick notes and lessons, quotes, and things like that… but if I’m really looking to create a post that’s going to go deeper with people and stir the pot, again - stories are my go-to.
4) Keep it empowered
Sharing our stories is not about us having a pity-party online… I think you get that. We’re not sharing our stories to garner attention, validation, or to use our online tribe as our counsellor.
That’s what our journals are for.
If you’re in the thick of a challenging experience, and haven’t found the lesson, I would suggest continuing to journey through that experience until you can find something empowering and uplifting about it, to include in your message.
Now sometimes you might be having a rough time, have not learned the lesson yet, but still want to share it, to be transparent with your audience. I get that. The empowering message within this simply might be… “I hurt too, and this is my truth right now.”
You’ll be able to tell what the vibe of the post is by how you feel when you read it.
However, I find it really fun to share experiences where I learned a lesson and I can articulate that lesson afterwards, towards the end of the post. Kind of like taking your reader on a heroines journey, and have them go through the challenges and come out the other side with some gold, even if that gold is simply more self-love, and or a shifted perspective.
Bottom line: Leave your readers with a sense of empowerment, rather than having them confused about what your actual point is.
5) Honour that some people just won’t get it
The online world is a crazy place. You’ve got to be prepared for feedback of all kinds. Most of the comments and messages I get from my stories are really powerful, positive, and introspective on the readers part. Often our stories spark meaningful dialogue that feels really good to be a part of.
But inevitably, there’s going to be some people who just don’t get it. Maybe your story sparked their ego, because it reminds them of themselves, and they’re not ready to face those demons yet.
Maybe they misunderstood your post, and think you’re saying something you’re not.
Maybe they’re just a big meanie. I don’t know. But sometimes you’re going to get comments that aren’t so nice.
Honour that, as a part of your journey to sovereignty, and as help in letting go of giving a fuck what people think.
Personally when I get negative comments, I still get upset, even if it’s just for 20 seconds. Again, this is a great opportunity for me to see where I’m still looking for validation from other people.
My advice? Don’t feed the fire. Ignore the haters. HATAS GONNA HATE. Just keep spreading the love, and shift your focus to how awesome you are, and how great your heart is.